The article examines the relational organization of close relationships. It identifies ‘the intimate couple’ as central in organising close relationships. The analysis draws from 35 configurations of intimates and personal narratives of heterosexual Finns, examining who they cite as intimate and how their intimacies are organized and narrated. The analysis shows how living with a partner in ‘the family setting’ generates ‘exclusive family intimacies’ pushing other intimates, such as friends and wider families, further. Alternative, more inclusive intimacies are examined both within and outside the family setting. Those living without a partner often cite friends, parents and/or siblings as intimates. Outside the family setting there is no other structure for close relationships than ‘the individual’ and her or his capability to construct relationships. This leaves some in isolation. The article analyses the interplay between structure and agency in the contexts of intimacy, family and the contemporary organization of close relationships.